Dating Profile #7

Match

Hola!

Whatever happened to meeting up, hanging out, sharing some time together, getting to learn about each other, and just have fun without any of the underlying sexual tension or pressure suggested by a date, or perpetuated by the “Grinding”, “Growling”, and “Hunting” sites out here?  

I can't be the only one that has noticed that as dating apps have proliferated, the pool of guys with substance seems to be shrinking, while the amount of "dating noise" keeps growing.  And what is up with all of these three sentence profiles that lack any depth or substance? 

If you’ve got little-to-no interest in guys with depth or substance, then go read another profile.  

Otherwise, why not take a minute and continue reading?

This genuine, kind, happy, healthy, single, relaxed, big smiled, masculine, educated, independent, sometimes mischievous, Cuban and mature professional guy, is out here hoping to meet another great guy, who can challenge me, show me something new about the world, and will allow me to do the same in return.   

I appreciate a good sense of humor and sarcasm, along with unshakeable optimism. I'm a total geek at heart, so I find smart to be very sexy.  Do you enjoy the company of someone who knows/cares about what is happening in the world (beyond their own bubble), and that can carry a conversation (regardless of their formal education or the topic)?  I sure do, and can provide you with the same.

I have many passions, try to stay active and fit, and am equally at ease in a tux, a boardroom, a beach, a gym, or a kitchen. I prefer to start a line than to wait in one, and often find dog treats in my pockets.  I know how to prioritize and communicate, have a life I enjoy, and a path to which I’m committed.  I’m passionate, have a brain, a great sense of humor, don’t sweat the small stuff, and know how to respect boundaries.  I’m a pretty straight forward guy, a good friend, a great catch, and totally “take home to mom material” (if it ever comes to that).  “Yeah, I’m gay, but that is the least interesting thing about me!” 

* Does Any of This Resonate or Strike a Chord? *

When was the last time you shared your time with someone, without any games or attitude?  It might lead to a great conversation, and help us both get off of this (and other?) apps!  If nothing else, you'll get to enjoy some great relaxing company - guaranteed!

Why not meet up, jump in a car, choose a playlist, and take a day trip. Perhaps go to a new restaurant, see a band play, hit a comedy club, or go on a hike with my dogs.  Maybe go on a harbor cruise or hang out under the stars and learn more about each other, without checking emails or texts?  

Incidentally, I'm not into bi guys, partnered guys, threesomes, open relationships, guys that are experimenting, guys that are married or cheating, or guys looking for "no strings attached" or "friends with benefits".  While I certainly don't judge - and am respectful of all - it's just not "my thing", that's all.  I’d prefer to meet a single guy to date, as I really am one-on-one focused, and long-term-relationship and monogamous-minded.  

BTW, in the interest of transparency, I should point out that I just adopted an awesome two year old toddler, and fully respect if that’s something you’re not interested in dealing with.  Adopting and raising a little guy is a major commitment I'm open to sharing with the right guy.

Read this far?  Nice.  Then why not drop me an email to get a conversation started?  Share some of your time with me, and lets chat.

Here's what some other people have to say about me:

FIVE out of FIVE stars

"Very handsome and lovable guy!" - my Mom

FOUR out of  FIVE stars

"What are you asking me for?  Ok, sure, I guess.  You're great..." - homeless guy near work that I often give food to

FIVE out of FIVE stars

"Do you really need to fire me?  I love working for you!." - employee I had to let go for theft

FIVE out of FIVE stars

"YAY waffles!" - my two year old son

Dating Profile #6

Match

GENERAL OBSERVATIONS...

I have an education, all my teeth, read books without pictures, watch movies with subtitles, can maintain conversations on many topics and don't consider Taco Bell an ethnic food. 

Over two years have passed since my last relationship with my partner of 10 years, and I'm ready for another long term relationship with someone I can enjoy walking along the same path with.  I'm not perfect, and know you aren't either, but I do know how to be a damn good partner and a great friend.  I'm rooted in - and guided by - well-formed basic core values, have a strong moral compass, am intellectually curious, politically astute, an active listener, healthy, selfless, self-aware, enjoy life, and know how to share it with someone else.  Who cares if the glass is half full or half empty?  The point is that it is refillable.  

MORE ABOUT ME...

1 - Cuban, single, available, and looking for more than a hookup.

2 - Gay, but that's likely the least interesting thing about me.

3 - Confident, loyal, honorable, genuine, affectionate, passionate, mature, courteous, reliable, DDF, masculine and athletic.  Oh, and I often find dog treats in my pockets.

4 - Independent, down-to-earth, well-balanced, low-maintenance, and drama-free; not looking to be “completed” as I’m fine just how I am, but it would be nice to find someone that compliments me.

5 - ENFJ, if you follow those types of tests.

6 - Dedicated, determined, career-focused technology professional, with a knack for making challenging concepts seem simple, while not letting my day job define who I am.

7 - Equally at ease in a tux, a boardroom, a beach, a gym, or a kitchen.

8 - Know how to prioritize people in my life, understand that it may not always be sunny and bright, and know how to take turns holding an umbrella.

9 - Recognize that the mark of a gentleman is not that you are better than anyone else; it is that you are better than your previous self.

10 - Never give someone the opportunity to waste my time twice.

MORE ABOUT THE GUY I'M LOOKING FOR...

1 - Single, available, and looking for more than a hookup.

2 - Gay - not Bi, not “questioning”, not "curious", and definitely not “experimenting”.

3 - Know who you are and how to take care of yourself, are self-confident, have a good EQ/EI, are relaxed, strong, DDF, and believe in monogamy.

4 - Know how to communicate, have a life you enjoy, a path to which you're committed, a passion, a brain, and a sense of humor.

5 - Don’t follow those silly MBTI tests.

6 - Have a job, are inquisitive about science and the world around you, are mentally stimulating, enjoy intellectual conversations, don’t sweat the small stuff, and know how to let go. 

7 - Know when to be serious, enjoy sarcasm, have a sense of humor, and know how to kick back, have fun, and relax.

8 - Don’t treat people in your life like options.

9 - Don't judge anyone’s story, by the chapter you walked in on.

10 - Not a pretender, or a game player, unless you are talking about Milton Bradley games that can be packed up in a box, and put up on a shelf after some competitive play!

DOES ANY OF THIS STRIKE A CHORD?

Then why not take a chance, invest less than a minute of your time, say "Hola" and get the conversation started? 

Let's meet up, jump in the car, choose a playlist and take a day trip.  Let's go to a new restaurant.  Let's go see a band or play.  Let’s go on a hike with the dogs.  Let's share the couch on a Sunday night and watch HBO.  Lets learn more about each other.  

You can't get there from here, without taking the chance (risk?) and emailing me.  The only thing you have to lose is the opportunity to meet another regular guy, and possibly make a friend.

Dating Profile #5

*sigh*

Updated dating profiles.

Again.

I guess it makes sense to reinvent them as necessary from time to time, even if it is just to keep them fresh.  Maybe someone that didn't care for a prior profile will take a second look at this one?

Who knows. but here they are.

Match

Overview:

I have an education, all of my teeth, read books without pictures, watch movies with subtitles, can maintain conversations on many topics, and don't consider Taco Bell an ethnic food. 

Trying something different, I've summarized my profile by simply breaking it out into key details about me, along with key details about what I'm looking for (and yes, the numbered items are intended to match up). 

Key details About ME:

1 - Cuban, single, available, and looking for more than a hookup.

2 - Gay, but that's likely the least interesting thing about me.

3 - Confident, optimistic, genuine, affectionate and passionate, mature, reliable, DDF, masculine and athletic.

4 - Independent, down-to-earth, well-balanced, low-maintenance, and drama-free; not looking to be “completed” as I’m fine just how I am, but it would be nice to find someone that compliments me.

5 - ENTJ, if you follow those types of tests.

6 - Dedicated, determined, career-focused technology professional, with a knack for making challenging concepts seem simple; my day job doesn’t define who I am.

7 - Equally at ease in a tux, a boardroom, a beach, a gym, or a kitchen.

8 - Know how to prioritize people in my life, understand that it may not always be sunny and bright, and know how to take turns holding an umbrella.

9 - Recognize that the mark of a gentleman is not that you are better than anyone else; it is that you are better than your previous self.

10 - Never give someone the opportunity to waste my time twice.

Details About YOU:

1 - Single, available, and looking for more than a hookup.

2 - Gay, not Bi, not “questioning”, not "curious", and definitely not “experimenting”.

3 - Know who you are and how to take care of yourself, are self-confident, have a good EQ/EI, are relaxed, strong, DDF, and believe in monogamy.

4 - Have a sense of who you are and have your own opinions, aren’t afraid to be happy, and know how to communicate and share.

5 - Don’t follow those silly MBTI tests.

6 - Have a job, are inquisitive about science and the world around you, mentally stimulating, enjoy intellectual conversations, don’t sweat the small stuff, and know how to let go. 

7 - Know when to be serious, enjoy sarcasm, have a sense of humor, and know how to kick back, have fun, and relax.

8 - Don’t treat people in your life like options.

9 - Don't judge anyone’s story, by the chapter you walked in on.

10 - Not a pretender, or a game player, unless you are talking about Milton Bradley games that can be packed up in a box, and put up on a shelf after some competitive play!

If any of this strikes a chord, then why not take a chance, say "Hola" to get the conversation started with one of the good guys on this site who is still stumbling around in search of another good guy to hang out with. 

The True Gentleman (1899)

The True Gentleman

"The true gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from goodwill, and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or the any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others, rather than his own; and who appears well in any company; a man with whom honor is sacred, and virtue safe." 

~John Walter Wayland, Virginia 1899

This is something I can only aspire to, but damnit, I will try!

Dating Profile #4

New online profiles that do a decent job of summarizing who I am on paper (if anyone can actually do that):

ZOOSK

Perfect Match:

Details About Me:

- Single

- Gay, but that's likely the least interesting thing about me

- Masculine and athletic

- Down to earth

- Cuban

- Career focused technology professional

- ENTJ, if you follow those types of tests

- Drama and stress free

- At ease in a tux, a boardroom, a beach, a gym, or a kitchen

- Enjoy meeting similar people to hang out and learn with

- Know how to prioritize my life

Details About You:

- Single

- Looking for more than just a hookup

- Independent

- Have a sense of who you are

- Know how to take care of yourself

- Have your own opinions

- Enjoy intellectual conversations

- Inquisitive about science and the world around you

- Have a sense of humor

- Are mentally stimulating

- Understand what an equal balance in a relationship is

- Don't treat people like an option

Why not take a chance, say "Hola"? Meet one of the genuine non-players that are out here on this site.

Ideal Date:

Turn off the cell phones. Take a 5-10 mile hike out with the dogs. Find a place to play fetch with them to tire them out. Find another place to lay out a picnic blanket, sit, enjoy a simple bite, and learn about each other.

Plenty of Fish

About Me:

I’m a single, masculine and athletic, down to earth, drama free and employed, Cuban guy here. I’m gay, but that’s likely the least interesting thing about me, as my world is just so much bigger than that. As a technology professional with a knack for making challenging concepts seem simple, I’m always looking for other similar people to hang out and learn with.

I tend to get along best with other guys who are independent and have a sense of who they are, know how to take care of themselves, have their own opinions, enjoy intellectual conversations, have a sense of humor, and prefer an equal balance in a relationship. Oh yeah, and I’m “Totally take home to mom material” too!

Why not take a chance, say "Hola", and meet one of the genuine non-players on this site?

First Date:

Not into endless back and forth messages. Let's chat and then meetup over coffee or a beer to help identify if a first date would make sense.

If it makes sense to go out, I'd rather avoid the "dinner and movie" tradition, and do something more interactive. Perhaps hit a festival somewhere, go to a museum, or hike outdoors somewhere.

Like dogs? I've got two that are always eager for hikes!

OK Cupid

Self Summary:

I’m a single, masculine and athletic, down to earth, drama free and employed, Cuban guy.  I’m gay, but that’s likely the lease interesting thing about me, as my world is just so much bigger than that. 

As a technology professional with a knack for making challenging concepts seem simple, I’m always looking for other similar people to hang out and learn with.  I tend to get along best with other guys who are independent and have a sense of who they are, know how to take care of themselves, have their own opinions, enjoy intellectual conversations, have a sense of humor, and prefer an equal balance in a relationship.  Oh yeah, and I’m “Totally take home to mom material” too! 

Why not take a chance, say "Hola", and meet one of the genuine non-players on this site?

What I’m Doing With My Life:

Enjoying it, and preparing to become a parent this year.

Match

In my own words:

Overview:

I have an education, all of my teeth, read books without pictures, watch movies with subtitles, can maintain conversations on many topics, and don't consider Taco Bell an ethic food.

Details About Me:

- Single

- Gay, but that's likely the least interesting thing about me

- Masculine and athletic

- Down to earth

- Cuban

- Career focused technology professional

- ENTJ, if you follow those types of tests

- Drama and stress free

- At ease in a tux, a boardroom, a beach, a gym, or a kitchen

- Enjoy meeting similar people to hang out and learn with

- Know how to prioritize my life

Details About You:

- Single

- Looking for more than just a hookup

- Independent

- Have a sense of who you are

- Know how to take care of yourself

- Have your own opinions

- Enjoy intellectual conversations

- Inquisitive about science and the world around you

- Have a sense of humor

- Are mentally stimulating

- Understand what an equal balance in a relationship is

- Don't treat people like an option

Why not take a chance, say "Hola"? Meet one of the genuine non-players that are out here on this site. 

My interests:

Coffee and conversation, Business networking, Cooking, Dining out, Movies/Videos, Museums and art, Music and concerts, Exploring new areas, Performing arts, Playing sports, Policitical interests, Travel/Sightseeing, Volunteering, Watching sports

Sports & exercise:

I exercise 5 or more times per week

Aerobics, Baseball, Football, Walking / Hiking, Weights / Machines

Pets:

I have dogs.

My Labradoodle and English Larador Retriever share my life.  Like dogs?  You will love these!”

Favorite things:

In no particular order:

- PBS

- NPR

- Sci-Fi

- Music

- Thunderstorms

- Thinking outside the box

- Coffee

- Working out

- Family Guy

- Tina Fey

- Technology

- The Milky Way Galaxy

- Adult Swim